My Reading of Created to be his help meet

So Many people talked about this book, I had to check it out for myself. I think most of it was common sense, that if we'd stop thinking with just our emotions, we would already know much of what is in here. There was something in this book that made me mad. Keep reading to find out.

Created to Be His Helpmeet June/July 2007 notes

P14. She says her DH pre-married days was her pastor and they would go and hold gospel meetings for the hippies. She says he didn’t give alter call (invitations) because he did not want anyone to respond to him, only to Christ. But he would tell them if anyone wanted to pray they were free to join him.

P15. You do have a choice in how your life plays out. Some of you are fighting your present situation and making no more progress than someone fighting quicksand. You fight your husband, and every verbal punch you land leaves a bruise on you as well. It is time to stop struggling in strife, bitterness, frustration, and disappointment.

P23. I know that as you read this it almost sounds like blasphemy, because it is so weird to think that your husband deserves you as his help meet.. But who said anything about what he deserves? You can only realize your womanhood when you are functioning according to your created nature…..If you successfully do the job of leading the family, you will not find satisfaction in it. It is far better that the job be done poorly by your husband than to be done well by you. Your excellence as a help meet to him may very well be God’s plan for improving his leadership role in the family.

P30. Her DH says, “No man has ever crawled out from under his wife’s criticism to be a better man- no matter how justified her condemnation.”

P34. If you have reason to be hurt or discouraged and yet you sing with thanksgiving, this is a true sacrifice of worship to God.

Psalm 107:22 – And let them sacrifice the sacrifices of thanksgiving, and declare HIS works with rejoicing.

P43. He thinks I am perfectly wonderful, not because I am a beautiful woman….it didn’t happen because he is a strong spiritual leader and always does the right thing. It happened and continues to happen because of the choices I make every day. I never have a chip on my shoulder, no matter how offended I have a right to be-and I do have reasons to be offended regularly. Every day, I remember to view myself as the woman God gave this man. This mind set helps me to be just that: a gift, a playmate, his helper.

P44. Now I know what some of you are thinking. You think it is too late for you. You are struggling on your second or third marriage to an unbelieving porn addict, or you are suffering through emotional scars from your godless youth, I want you to know something wonderful about Jesus. With HIM, it doesn’t matter where you have been or who you have been with, because HIS love and forgiveness can reach down and make you whole. HE is willing to love you and make you HIS bride, just as you are. And HE asks you to be a bride to your husband, just as he is. When a weak sister fulfills her divine purpose of being a true help meet, it brings glory and joy to God. Luke 7:38-50

P47. The message to you is simple. From this day forth, starting right now-today-be the woman who honors, obeys, and loves Jesus, by honoring your husband. Thank Jesus for every good thing He has brought into your life. Joy is the result of a thankful heart.

P50. It doesn’t take a good man, or even a saved man, for a woman to have a heavenly marriage, but it does take a woman willing to honor God by being the kind of wife God intended. It takes one woman willing to be a helpmeet-a suitable helper. If you look at your husband and can’t find any reason to want to help him-and I know some of you are married to men like that- then look to Christ and know that it is HE who made you to be a help meet. You serve Christ by serving your husband, whether your husband deserves it or not.

A woman’s calling is not easy. To allow someone else to control your life is much harder than taking control of it yourself. It can be a challenge, even for veteran wives. Don’t despair. With wisdom from on high, you can be the woman God uses, if not to change that old man into a wonderful fellow, then at least to ease your burden and become a heavenly bride fit for the Son of God Himself. God very clearly spelled out to us exactly what HE expects of us as wives. HIS plan is eternal. It involves more than just our relationship with our husbands. God designed marriage to be an earthly pattern of the divine marriage of Christ and the church. In God’s design, we play a leading role. Therefore, God left no margin for error of misunderstanding. HIS Word speaks abundantly and clearly of our role.

P54. God’s blueprint for marriage: Ephesians 5:22-24, Colossians 3:18, I Corinthians 11:3

P63. The disturbed woman expects her family to appease her and is offended when they act like life is just fine. God is visiting her soul with a terrible rot called madness. First, she is only mad at her husband. Years pass and she is mad at the family. As time goes on she is mad at the church. Then she is mad at the mailman and mad at the waitress. Practicing, always practicing, perfecting her madness. Mad, all the time mad. Madness.
Deut. 28:28 & Eccles. 10:13

Proverbs 4:7, 12:4, & 18:22

3 Types of Men.

Read this 06/25/07 and then on 06/26/07 I was trying to figure out which type my DH was. So I took out some paper and wrote the traits of each one down and what as a wife to do to help that type of man. My DH always comes home from work and plays a computer game called counter strike. It’s like a military game on the computer. He curses a lot when he is playing this game. And he came home from work yesterday at 1:30pm and immediately hopped on the computer to play that game. He played that game til about 9pm when he went to lay down and try to go to sleep. Sure he took a shower and ate some dinner at some point but it was mostly playing that game. So while I was taking my notes, he says to me that I am so weird because I like to read and even take notes on the books I am reading. SO I showed him the book and said it will help me be a better wife. So he was into that and was asking what kinds of things does the book say? I told him I was at a part in the book where it says there are 3 types of man and in order to be the best wife possible to one’s husband you have to know which type he mostly is because every man is a mix of the 3 types but usually one trait is more dominant. DH said to keep him informed when I figure it out. I did just as he asked but when I told him based on my notes and results (keep reading), he wasn’t happy with what I picked. But I know that if he were evaluating me based on a 3 types of women test, I wouldn’t be happy with what he said about me but how I see myself and how he sees me may not be the same and vice versa. He had more of the visionary man traits than the others. He seemed displeased with this. I then told him the book gives examples of each type of man. Command men: Winston Churchill, George Patton, Ronald Reagan. Visionary men: Wright brothers who “wasted” time trying to get a bike to fly and Thomas Edison who failed 999 times but that thousandth time it worked. Then he was like, ok so it’s not so bad to be a visionary man.

Here are my notes:

Command Man: My DH is 38%
-A born leader (limited # of this type)
-do more than is required of them
X-expect wife to wait on them hand and foot
X-doesn’t want his wife involved in any project that prevents her from serving him
-strong, forceful, bossy ((not necessarily that he wouldn’t want me to have a job and bring home some money, but see next one for more)
-less tolerance (type that would walk off and leave wife before she even realizes she is close to losing her man)
-does not yield
-not as intimate or vulnerable as other men in sharing personal feelings or vocation w/wife
-seems to be self-sufficient
X-wife is on call 24/7, he wants to know where she is, what she is doing, and why ((DH didn’t feel he was this way but if I am not at home when he gets home or calls the home number, he does call my cell and try to locate me to ask where I am/doing/why and will call repeatedly asking me questions. To me it feels like he is saying, well if you were home I wouldn’t have to keep calling.))
-corrects wife, it’s his nature to control
X-will not take out the trash but rather command another to do so ((it’s not like he’s never taken out the trash…maybe 5 times in 7 years though and done dishes twice, except he loads dirty ones in with clean ones and the re-runs dishwasher…rolls eyes))
-will talk about his plans, ideas, and finished projects objectively and without emotion
X-no small talk ((with me that is))
-sees his distant goal mainly and expects his wife to remember individual needs
X-uncomfortable around the sick, dying, hurting, and hopeless ((when we know someone who is like this, DH says I want to call but I don’t know what to say and not to mention I have to have a fake smile even when things are bothering me because DH either feels uncomfortable around me if I show I am sad or he tells to suck it up))

For the wife of a command man:
-make appeals w/o challenging his authority
-have to earn a place in his heart by proving will stand by him
-faithful, loyal, obedient
-when you have won his confidence, he will treasure you to the extreme
-always knows exactly what is required of her = calm sense of safety and rest
-be a faithful wife
-in order to share his fame and glory, he needs admiration from you, being willing to take 2nd seat and not be offended, in return he will adore you
-you will be his closest and sometimes only confidante
-honor and reverence him daily
-never shame or belittle him

When a woman is married to a bossy, dominant man, people marvel that she’s willing to serve him w/o complaint. She comes out looking like a wonderful woman of great patience and sacrifice.

How to ruin a marriage to a command man:
-fail to honor, obey, and reverence his authority and rule

Tips to heal a marriage to a command man:
-become his adoring queen
-honor and obey his every reasonable and unreasonable word
-dress, act, and speak so as to bring honor to him in everything you do




Visionary Man – My DH is 81%
X-shakers, changer, and dreamers (my DH likes to dream)
-challenge and buck the system
X-tunnel vision (I think this is a universal guy trait, one focus at a time)
-can push their agendas at times
X-most sit around the house and complain even if a visionary at heart (My DH has a tendency to do this.)
-inventors
X-love confrontation and hate “status” quo (My DH says no matter what I say he will argue for the other side just cuz it’s fun to do)
X-needs to communicate w/words, music, writing, voice, art or actions (DH is always singing made up songs and making drum beats)
X-doesn’t do well with the 8-5 job setting and then retiring to the “good” life after 30 years (My DH is always saying he doesn’t want to work until he’s 65 in order to receive a pension…he wants to retire early in life)
X-will either barely work or work like a maniac (DH has done both)
X-talks enthusiastically about his ideas, plans, and dreams (DH does, although his dreams usually involve material things or “what could have been” like pro-football player, etc)
X-Start and/or finish projects, several times (DH does this, saving money for example)
X-initiator and provoker (see loves confrontation for more)
X-intense focus (for DH this is only towards the things he likes or wants)
X-Not a comforter (see last trait under Command man for more)
X-narrow leadership (I can see DH leading, but a smaller group with not too many responsibilities)

For the wife of a Visionary Man:
- He needs a good, wise, prudent, and stable woman with a positive outlook on life.
- He’ll be rich or poor, rarely middle class, so be happy either way
- Need to be a little reckless and blind in one eye
- Be flexible, loyal, go with his flow
- Realize he doesn’t have to be right for you to follow him
- Support him and his ideas, don’t critique them because he will likely later go over them himself and be his own critique
- No idle gossip
- Don’t take offense
- Be tough, full of life and joy, tuck in that quivering lip, square those shoulders, and don a smile

((When I first started dating J, I read in one of those Seventeen magazines that based on his ‘zodiac’ sign there were 3 things I could do to get him to really like me. Smile a lot, help him with his homework, and befriend his pets -his mom had 2 German Shepherds. I did all that, and well, here we are…LOL))

A woman married to the impulsive visionary man who puts the family through hardships will stir amazement in everyone. “How can she tolerate his weird ideas with such peace and joy?” She comes out being a real saint, maybe even a martyr,

How to ruin a marriage to a visionary man:
-fail to follow, believe, and participate enthusiastically in his dreams and visions

Tips to heal a marriage to a visionary man:
-lay aside your own dreams and aspirations and embrace your role as his help meet
-believe in him
-be willing to follow him with joyful participation on any path he chooses

Steady Man: My DH is 50%
-no snap decisions
-does not spend his last dime on new ideas
-doesn’t tell others what to do
-manager mindset
X-quietly ignores hypocrisy in others (well he does point out my faults but never points out to others theirs)
X-selflessly fights wars started by command and visionary men (I could see DH willing to stick by someone through the end)
X-faithful til day he dies to wife of his youth (DH has joked about after 10 years of marriage to me, finding the love of his life, like his dad did…but we’ve had rough times and he didn’t leave)
X-never pressures you to perform miracles (yes DH expects some things, but not everything nor for me to be the “perfect” woman)
-doesn’t expect you to be his servant
-balanced and stable, practical, cautious, looks like a lack of spontaneity
-tried to serve his wife and make her happy
-may take out the trash/keep areas clean and the wife may take this for granted
X-in quiet contemplation much of the time (DH does this too) – some wives go crazy trying to get him to open up
X-he may cry during times of stress and/or intimacy (BTDT with DH)
-very, very slow to trust and open up to woman he loves cuz he does not understand her
X-enjoys company of others and comfy w/small talk with those around him(DH is a social butterfly)
X-most liked by everyone, he is in demand when others need him to fix whatever he is good at, he belongs to others not his wife’s alone
-loves to comfort and knows what others need in times of sorrow
X-stressed in a command position (DH had several manager type positions when he worked at wal-mart and the weight of the responsibility really got to him)
X-respects both eternal and microscopic view of life – but tends to see life as it is (as much as DH wishes he could be a pro-football player, he is also realistic)

For the wife of a Steady Man:
-She will not be hurried
-She may appear to others to have lots of free time
-She will need to help him with decisions (not make them for him, just be a sounding board and offer to help him work through his thoughts since he is very cautious he may miss out on great opportunities and a gentle reminder from you may help him to make up his mind sooner.)

If you are married to a wonderful, kind, loving, serving man and you are just a little bit selfish, then you are likely to end up looking like and unthankful shrew. He helps you, adores you, protects you, and is careful to provide for you and yet you are still not satisfied, shame on you.

How to ruin a marriage to a Steady Man:
-fail to appreciate him
-fail to wait on him to make decisions
-fail to be thankful for his pleasant qualities

Tips to heal a marriage to a Steady Man:
-Joyfully realize what a friend, lover, and companion you’ve been given
-live that gratitude verbally and actively
-stop trying to change him and he will grow.
-then you can willingly take up tasks that will fill your time and this will give husband joy and satisfaction when he sees your productiveness






Biblical Profile Contrast

Jezebel Profile
1.) Prophetess
2.) Teacher
3.) One who pities
4.) Religious
5.) Controller

Virtuous Woman Profile
1.) Help meet
2.) Silent
3.) Encourager
4.) Prudent worker
5.) Submissive


Notes from Chapter 15: I liked this chapter

8am place several frozen chicken breasts and rice into slow cooker. Add water, celery, bell pepper, and seasonings. Turn it on low heat.
By Noon make a salad and enjoy Dinner.

After Dinner add seasoning and more water to whatever is left in the slow cooker. Use this simple soup with bread for sopping for supper.

She said only one simple choice for breakfast and lunch everyday leaves no room for argument and makes for more peaceful days. Two examples are:

Peanut butter on toast for breakfast every morning is filling for kids.

Slow cooker pinto beans and veggies everyday for lunch is a good choice.

Just a meal idea:
Sunday night put dried pinto beans and water into the slow cooker to soak. Monday morning turn the pot on low. Monday evening, grill minute steaks and bake sweet potatoes to eat with the beans.

Add water to leftover beans and let cook on low overnight to be used with taco salad as refried beans Tuesday. An hour before dinner, wash and tear some lettuce, chop up an onion, bell pepper, and 2 tomatoes in preparation for taco salad. Brown 2 pounds ground beef. Put half the cooked meat into the fridge for use on Wednesday. Season the meat left in the skillet with taco seasoning and keep on warm. Set the table, lay out sour cream, shredded cheese, hot sauce, corn chips, chopped veggies, beans and meat.

Wednesday at noon, put reserved pre-cooked ground beef, chopped and sautéed onions, peppers, mushrooms, and celery in slow cooker with crushed tomatoes and can of tomato paste with spaghetti seasonings. An hour before super, make a salad and heat water, ready to drop in noodles 10 minutes before serving dinner. That night rinse out the slow cooker and place dried black beans into soak.

Thursday morning, turn the slow cooker on low with black beans in it. Two hours before dinner, add smoked sausages to the beans. Cook enough rice for tow meals and serve the beans and sausage over rice with sour cream, chopped onion and tomatoes and grated cheese. Add water to leftover beans in slow cooker and a small handful of rice to simmer over night for you and the children’s lunch on Friday. Put leftover rice in fridge for Friday’s dinner.

Friday evening use chopped onion, & bits of favorite meat to sauté. Mix in with the leftover rice, then add scrambled eggs and soy sauce to the rice mixture to make fried rice. Season with salt and pepper. Serve with a side salad.

Saturday have a cookout with hamburgers, baked beans (from the can) and cookies for dessert.

Sunday, have your chicken ready for the slow cooker. Early Sunday morning, put a chicken, stalk of celery, and can of cream of chicken soup into the slow cooker, and season. Just before you leave for church, cut 10 flour tortillas into two-inch wide strips and drop into the slow cooker. Enjoy yummy chicken and dumplings when you get home from church.

It is not a grouchy old husband or bad days that cause the problems of cooking and cleaning for young wives. It is the lack of simple planning.

When she was a child, they always had the same food on certain days. Dinner was always ready at 5pm.

Peas, potatoes, and minute steaks on Monday.
Meatloaf with sweet potato and coleslaw on Tuesday.
Wednesday dinner was roast with mashed potatoes and green beans.
Thursday evening was spaghetti and salad.
Friday was fish, chips, and salad (meal Jesus prepared for his company) {her words, not mine}

The regular dinners each weeknight made it easier for her mom to plan and buy the week’s groceries. Her dad would look forward to the meal he knew would be hot and waiting for him when he came home from work. The key is to plan. A grocery list with the week’s meals well defined is a very handy tool.
As wives, our life’s work should be to perfect how we may please our husbands.

Sometimes, maintaining a good relationship with your husband simply requires the performing of simple tasks, like having a good meal ready on time and a clean house, even when it is not easy or convenient to do so.

Page 181 – Your divine calling is to serve your family. Stimulating your own inner feelings in the name of worship is selfish mockery, approaching idolatry. You are a part of a trend sweeping through church women’s circles – pursuit of intimacy and deep feelings apart from your husband. This inner-self-stimulation is what her husband calls “spiritual mstrbtn”. It has nothing to do with the God of the Bible. Learn to read the Scriptures just a few minutes here and there throughout the day and meditate on what you read as you work. Sing unto the Lord. Don’t allow the ‘lonely women’s club’ mentality to sweep you away from your role as a wife and mother. Your time at church and prayer meeting is sufficient enough time with other women. Focus your life on your home, husband, and children.

Page 202 – If you find pleasure in being a source of temptation to men, you are definitely an ungodly woman and are in desperate need of repentance. (she was addressing modest appearance in this chapter)

P218-219 - Standard Dumb Cluck Test:
*Does natural healing not grab your attention?
*Have you neglected to check out what vaccinations might do to your child’s health?
*Have you considered what store bought, prepared cereal has in it?
*Do finances and business matters confuse or bore you?
*Are you satisfied with knowing who’s who in Hollywood but really don’t care a fig’s worth who is deciding the fate of your children’s future in world events?
*Do you love fiction romances/movies but find books that will teach you practical knowledge a drag?
*Have you ever checked the oil in your car?
*Can you use a hammer, saw, tape measure, and screw driver?

A man works all day long and comes home to a messy yard, dirty house, leaky faucet, and a lazy, complaining wife. He sees so much that needs to be done and just feels overwhelmed that he is apparently carrying the whole load himself. He feels as though he became a slave when he married. He doesn’t have a helpmeet pulling her share of the load; he has a cranky, demanding leech sucking him dry. So when a call comes from the little old lady in distress, of course he will drop everything and run. She will smile sweetly at him and tell him how much she appreciates him. When he gets her car running again, it will be a job finished, and he will feel good about himself. If he stayed at home and fixed the screen, the faucet would still be leaking, and you would still be unhappy.

He was not created to be your servant. You were created to be his helper, so get to it. Learn to make yourself useful. I have found that when there is a job too big for me, if I at least start it, my husband will see that I am in over my head and will step in and finish the job. Then I can brag on how smart he is, and he doesn’t even realize that I just manipulated him. (I am sacrificing a lot to put this in print.)

P236 – While we women tend to reduce everything to issues of “who is right and what is just,” God authoritatively points us to the real issue – “Whom did I place in charge, and whom did I create to be a help meet?”

P240-241 – The proper gentle, loving, tender, and encouraging wife says, “Get up, you can do it. It doesn’t matter what they say. You’re the man.” The gentle, loving, tender, and sympathetic wife says, “Sweetheart, you know I love you, and I am so sorry those awful people treated you so badly. You come over here, and let me hold you. I just want you to be happy.”
The second type of wife means well. Just trying to comfort. She will nurse her husband into infantile response. They will draw close together and shut out the cruel world. He will stop being “the man”.
If you see your husband moving in the direction of taking offense or being suspicious of the motives of those around him, NEVER be sympathetic and supportive of his hurts. Remember I Peter 3 says we can even win our lost husbands with our chaste conversation. A chaste conversation has greater power with a man than does sympathy.

P242 – God gave us a plan by which, through our submission and reverence, HE could change the heart of any man to some degree. In the end, the Scriptures teach that there is something bigger and more important to God than our happiness. It’s not about our happiness; it’s about our holiness. Regardless of how much it hurts, whether or not we see results, even if our man does not get saved, God is worthy of our obedience, which in HIS eyes is worship.

P247 – We have noticed that big families are more likely to produce children who are emotionally stable and less self-centered, with a better-than-average probability of growing up to be dependable, balanced adults. The most selfish people I have known were an only child, or a last child who came along ten years behind the other children and grew up like an only child. {Report to HOO} - THIS WAS MEAN and totally unecessary!!! Maybe you don't remember this part because you do have more than one child...like I have stated many times some people don't ovulate so don't berate us for not having more children because you think we are being selfish...and don't tell me to "just adopt" ...we've looked into...it's not easy...see right hand column top for more.

P251 – Whether you have short hair, long hair, or wear a scarf, God’s rule is still for all women (married or single) to keep silent in the church, which includes praying and prophesying. This is not hard to understand, but many find it hard to accept. I Corinthians 14:34-35. The church, of course, is not the building (I Cor. 14:23a). It is the assembly of other believers for the purpose of worship, preaching of the Word, and ministry of the gifts. The 14th chapter of I Corinthians discusses the church and its functions. {why did she say women can’t even pray out loud in church?}

P260 – When God granted government the power to rule in carnal areas, HE relinquished to them the power to tax as they might choose. God does not step in and stop a government from unjust taxation. That is a sphere of influence that belongs to government alone – even if they abuse the power.
God will allow government to license its citizens, to act unjustly, and to abuse its regulatory powers, and its subjects are still obligated to act obediently, but if government attempts to regulate belief, as in commanding parents not to teach their children that homosexuality is sin, then it has stepped outside the sphere of authority that belongs to government. The secret is to know from Scripture the extent of the jurisdiction God has delegated to each authority.

P268 – Many men feel no moral obligation to stimulate their memories when it comes to “voluntarily” contributing to a tax system that is illegal thievery. They do not feel any duty before God to contribute money to support abortions, the homosexual agenda in public schools, family-planning programs, the distribution of condoms to children, needles to dope addicts, support of the so-called arts, and so-called public radio with its socialist agenda. We are not advocating this position or justifying any dishonesty, but it helps a wife to understand a man’s perspective.

P270-271 – The Bible gives us several examples of wives in terrible circumstances coming up with different ideas to show honor and still obey. For instance, Esther, who was given as a bride to a godless, divorced man, diverted disaster and death by quick wit and courage when her husband made a foolish decree. (Read the book of Esther for the whole story, and check out www.nogreaterjoy.org for the Esther Study.)

P281 – He did not want his wife to be a performer for the church, the homeschool committee leader, or to win the best house-keeping award; he wanted a woman to tell him he was wonderful. He needed a woman to meet him at the door with a smile. He longed to be the most important activity in her life. He needed her with him. He needed to be her king.

P282 – Any requests that I have, I tell God about it and HE provides through my husband. And it is absolutely God’s doing. I know that I had nothing to do with it, and I am glad for that. God is jealous for my husband, and HE will not allow me to change him. Sometimes I can almost hear God tell me, “See daughter, you finally gave him to me, and now I am fixing him better than you would have even thought! He is my son, and I take pleasure in working with him. Keep having that faith that I will work in your husband’s life, because I am not done with him yet; and I am not finished with you, either. Lift up your head, and praise me with joy as I complete this work. This is your job, daughter; praise him with joy always for the work that I am doing in him.” When things go hard, I praise God and give the circumstances to HIM.

P283 – If she pours her life into pleasing her husband and serving him, he will develop a protective, nurturing instinct toward her.

P284 – He only needs his woman to pour her life into his, for him to pour his soul back into hers.

P285 – Keep reminding people that marriage is the most precious relationship we have on this earth, and it is ONLY FOR THIS EARTH, so make the most of it, and don’t waste the time.


P291 – God is looking for help meets, ladies who will honor what HE said in HIS “Letter of Instructions,” so HE can use them as vessels of blessings. Blessings! HE has so many blessings and so few willing vessels.
I can almost see HIM standing there, leaning over the portals of Heaven, watching, waiting, and listening for that lovely musical sound of joyful laughter wafting up through the heavens. “Yes, I hear one answering the call. Bring me the cup.” An angel hands over the cup of chastisement and judgment, and God replies, “No, not THAT one; the large one full of blessings is what this little gal needs.” And the angel smiles as he puts the large Blessings Cup into God’s eager hands. Smiling, God begins to pour the blessings forth, spilling out blessings faster than they can be received. The angel leans over so he can see, and then he too hears the beautiful sound of thanksgiving floating ever upward as a sweet aroma to God. HE is an Awesome God of blessings and delight. HE is ever willing and ready to bless those who honor HIM.
Do you hear HIM? HE is softly and tenderly calling your name: “Be the help meet I created you to be. Believe ME, trust ME, obey ME, and then watch what I will do.”
Showers of blessings! Oh, that today they might fall.

P286 – things that can break a man’s spirit and cripple a marriage:
*A wife who is spiritually critical
*A discontented wife
*A wife who is not fulfilling the eight priorities in Titus 2 for a wife

Eight things that a wifemom must do or be to avoid blaspheming the written Word of God:
Titus 2:3-5
#1) Sober – means to do one’s duty, be moderate, self-controlled, thoughtful, and to learn to make wise decisions and judgments. Isaiah 33:6
#2) Love their husbands –loving him means putting his needs before your own. I am a minister. If you are a wife, you, too, are a minister. Our ministry is directed toward our husbands and then our children. We were, and are, created to be help meets. Every day and every night we need to be ready to minister to his needs.
#3) Love their children –the most important thing a mother will do for her children is to create an atmosphere of peace and joy by deeply loving their daddy and being satisfied with life. You and you alone are your babies’ keeper. Please keep them well.
#4) To be discreet –means prudent: wise in avoiding error and in selecting the best means to accomplish a purpose; circumspect; courteous, polite, honest dealings. Having good tastes…good judgment…useful…to be of good understanding.
#5) Chaste –means to be pure in thought, word, act, and to be modest and honorable in all things.
#6) Keepers at home –Keepers means being on guard, watching, caretaker and Home means seat of domestic life. It is not a suggestion; it is God’s will for wives.
#7) Good –A good woman is genuine, joyful, virtuous, valuable, competent, ready, kind, benevolent, merciful, hardworking, agreeable, pleasant, congenial, honorable, faithful, gracious, and wise. A good woman is prudent. A prudent wife is not: dumb, lazy, a time waster. A prudent wife is a learner.
#8) To be obedient to their own husband –means to be yielding, willing and eager to accomplish injunctions or desires, abstaining from that which is forbidden.


Glorious Marriage Warfare Tools:
*Joy
*Thankfulness
*Contentment
*Reverence
*Submission
*Prayer
*Believing God’s Word

Genesis 2:18 & 22

Proverbs 18:22 - Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.