Submission or Ephesians 5:21-31

In my Jewish Roots 101 and Intro to Jewish Roots classes, we are learning that many goy became proselytes to Judaism because in Judaism women were of value and had rights they didn't have in other religions/cultures.
That the man is the head of the family but the wife is the head of the household/finances aka Proverbs 31. They make decisions together with final vote if you will laying with him. But always he should be looking out for her best interest.
That the woman was not required to attend Synagogue because she is already busy at home where man is priest, the table is the altar, and the sacrifice was prayer. However the men were required to attend Synagogue and to sit up front and/or center because they need more "teaching" to understand where-as women were known to pick things up easier.

So let's look at Scripture and even some oh my dake notes:

21Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.

22Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

23For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the
saviour of the body.

24Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

Note: subject to everything that is lawful and right, not in things criminal and wrong. If he is sinful and demands her to leave off the things that save the soul she is not under obligation to him. Her G-D and her soul must come first (Mt. 22:37; Lk. 14:26-27). Obedience to the husband in all things is based upon him loving his wife, as Christ does the Church.

So Spot on Anna!!!!

25Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

Note: 8 commands for husbands-
be head of the wife
love wife as Christ the Church
love wife as own body
nourish, bring up, care for, protect
cherish, to foster warm in one's bosom
be joined as one flesh ((in other words don't just think about yourself))
leave parents for wife ((stop hanging on your mom and dad's apron strings))
cleave to wife ((again let go mom and dad))

You'll notice the guys got twice the commands ...because as we've been taught men take a little longer to pick things up than us ladies.

I'm really looking forward to learning more about marriage according to G-D's design and as someone responded to me once when I asked a question:

"As a beloved child of Abba El, you have a right to question EVERYTHING - only then will you discover the truth that has been hidden deep within the layers of men's minds."