1 interesting tid bit and also an I've had it post

the good or interesting tidbit:
in a book by pseudoname Joel Richards he talks about how in the Jewish mindset a week or shabbatan can also refer to 10 days not just 7 as in our western way of thinking. Thought that was interesting and you can apply that where you may.

now for the I've had it portion:

I'm reading a book that was recommended to me and the content in it as well as that which I've heard others say in group settings is very disturbing to me.

It boils down to when married and your spouse does something wrong or wrong towards you that it's because of something you need to learn and work on. That a spouse's wrong doing reveals your own areas of sin and mark missing habits/characteristics. Ok really? so if your spouse has an addiction or abuses you or cheats on you it's because you are doing something wrong or have some bad thing in your life that needs to be exposed and taken care of? Seriously? What planet are these people living on?

And yes the above mentality is all written/spoken of by women. What's wrong with these women? Are they taking the "submit" thing too far? So far as letting themselves truly be treated as doormats and somehow think they deserve to be treated that way? I say they are.

I say if spouses would just stop and consider the other before themselves, they wouldn't do things to "push" the others buttons and no one would need to needlessly get upset. If you find out your spouse (insert grevious mistake here- for example- gambled the monthly income away)you do have a right to be upset and let them know, yes in a mature way, but the spouse who gambled should have stopped to think about what they were doing and the effects of their action before proceeding. If they had, then you wouldn't have needed to properly display your reaction and you'd have money for the month to live on.

Let's give some more, not quite so huge examples.

Your friend is dieting and you invite them over for dinner. You wouldn't offer them all kinds of food that you know are a weakness to them, ie cupcakes and etc.

Your spouse is a conservative spender and user of resources and you tend to be forgetful and not so aware but you know they like you to turn lights off and/or other appliances when you leave a room and will be gone for some time. How hard is it to just stop and think and do for someone else in order to make their day more peaceful and yours too because then they don't needlessly get upset?!

Again, I don't believe that when spouseA does something wrong or wrongs the other it's because the spouseB has sin that needs to be exposed. It's far easier to just do the right thing and put others needs/feelings above your own. If we all looked out for each other in this way with consideration, then there would be less "ugly responses" in our daily lives. No one should have their buttons pushed to see how they will react. Yes the reactor does need to learn more mature ways to display reactions but the instigator should also not instigate!