what is it? what does it mean? what does it do?
–verb (used with object)
1. to annoy by persistent faultfinding, complaints, or demands.
2. to keep in a state of troubled awareness or anxiety, as a recurrent pain or problem: She had certain misgivings that nagged her.
–verb (used without object)
3. to find fault or complain in an irritating, wearisome, or relentless manner (often fol. by at): If they start nagging at each other, I'm going home.
4. to cause pain, discomfort, distress, depression, etc. (often fol. by at): This headache has been nagging at me all day.
is it nagging to only one time mention something, either something that needs to be done or remembered? Really only saying it one time equals nagging?
My mom was a nag....she would over and over and over and over and over and over and over on and on say the same thing .... now that to me is a nag .... more than once.
I don't want to be a "nag" but how can I communicate with my son and husband when I need them to do something or it's something that they've told me they want to do and all I'm trying to do is remind them because they asked me to remind them and then they turn around and call me a "nag" or at least that's putting it mildly my DH has been known to call me the b word, again for only asking or saying something ONE time.
Colossians 4:6
Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt,
Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt,
that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.
2 comments:
I struggle with where the line is between nagging and just communicating necessary things.
I think Part I in Volume 5 (Formation of Character) has many wonderful examples of how to train children without nagging. (Training husbands is another matter LOL!)
Some things I have learned recently that has helped me a lot:
* Use nonverbal communication (seems less like nagging). If you read Charlotte Mason's descriptions of habit training, she recommends hopeful and expectant looks.
* Phrase yourself declaratively, "I feel so much happier when someone helps me with the dishes" or "Oh, my, you have a big chocolate stain on your shirt." Then, if they do not listen, try to find another way like suggesting playing with suds after the dishes are done OR handing the dear son a clean shirt.
* Find cool things that make chores more fun. The coolest thing I have seen recently is a T-shirt folding machine!
* Sometimes, it is matter of doing it together. Is cleaning the room all in one shot? Then, try a very specific short goal and turn it into a race or a game (shooting baskets by tossing dirty clothes into the hamper).
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